“[We] were made because [we] matter, and [we] were never intended to live a life that matters less than anyone else,” | Author + Writer Tricia Lott Williford.
The influences of those around us play a bigger role than we like to admit on what we think we are worth. From the moment we are born, society tells us how to look and act. It tells us how to think about ourselves based on our success in the American Dream. It tells us that we are successful once we are married and have children. It tells us that we are capable or qualified once we are a certain age or have enough experience. Or that we are enough based on what kind of house or car we have.
But this is just not true. This is not SUCCESS.
Like a lot of women, I struggle with accepting who I am and accepting God’s grace and love for me. As I navigate through what “they” say my life should look like, I have to weed through a lot of lies. I wrestle with what God says I deserve. It is hard for me to believe that I am talented enough to live out my dreams. It is hard to believe that despite my circumstances and choices, God would redeem, love, and accept me.
While reading Tricia Lott Williford’s book, “You Can Do This”, I was reminded that my identity is more than the mold of what society tries to make me and the lies that play on repeat in my mind. She explains finding our new identity like this;
When life gets difficult, we naturally fall back on our old habits, and our old beliefs, but when we allow ourselves to be who we are through God’s grace, the old doesn’t seem to fit anymore and it becomes unnatural. In this place, it allows God the space to weave in a new identity into us. We need to have grace on ourselves as we begin to redefine our identity and believe in who God is shaping us to become. Sometimes definitions we used to identify with just don’t define us anymore.
When we believe that God made us with a purpose and we embrace all that He made us to be, we can be confident, because our confidence comes from Him. Tricia Lott Williford says, “The only difference between you and a confident person is one thing: confidence… how you feel about yourself; what you tell yourself; and whether you believe God is in you, beside you, and equipping you for this… it’s a tremendous shift of security to realize that any confidence I have in myself is ultimately confidence in the one who made me.”
We were created by our One True King. We are His children made in His image. He gave us passions and dreams for a reason. We can confidently take hold of His goodness because of whose we are. We are brilliant, we are wise, we are beautiful and we have a purpose. We are mothers, we are women, we are hard workers, we are teachers and we are strong.
As I read through Tricia’s book and have prayed about my fears and insecurities, God has revealed His grace to me. He has loved me deeply and spoken to my heart. Because of that, I can be confident in who I am. I can be confident in my story and how God will use it to bring Him glory. I know that as I continue to accept who I am, I am accepting something that is good, true, and real.
This Mother’s Day, I invite you start this journey to more confidence. I’ll see you at service.
“There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” | Christopher Robin – Pooh’s Grand Adventure
So then, when it comes to studying the Bible, why does it seem so difficult? Think about it…There are 66 books in the bible in two sections the old / new testament, written over the course of 2000 years by 40 different writers contributing to the exact same story of the Messiah. Books written on history, philosophy, theological thinking, systematic thinking, poetry, music, personal letters to people, to churches, to countries, books on rules, parables or illustrations, sex, love, the future. Honestly, it can feel pretty overwhelming.
You might feel like the Bible is difficult and hard to know where to start, and that’s okay. But it doesn’t need to feel that way, so I want to give you a few practical steps to get started:
Before you begin:
Begin:
Finishing:
Just like anything, it may take time to create a rhythm and be disciplined. Don’t give up! Remember that reading the Bible isn’t about fulfilling a check list of verses to read, it’s about taking the time to meet with God, listen to Him and begin to hear His voice in your life – day to day.
This guest post was written by our High School Associate Director, Aaron Harder. For more information about our middle school or high school ministries and when they meet, check out QUEST and The Crossing.
Perhaps you are wondering what is happening to today’s youth, what causes millennial’s and Generation Z to feel so entitled. Why do these generations seem to be leaving the church at faster and faster rates? If you’ve wondered these things, maybe you should ask what your role is in transforming those realities. I’m beginning to believe the problem is not with them, but with who is—or rather, is not—teaching them.
I’ve noticed the most peculiar phenomenon about today’s youth: most of them link godliness and being Christ-like to working in a church or being a pastor. It’s as if they see a career in ministry as the final stop on the train of Christian maturity. They don’t know what it looks like to be a Christian in other workplaces.
It’s not that our pastors and church staff employees cannot be great examples for the next generation—they are–but our students often fail to equate working as a doctor, lawyer, accountant, financial advisor, or school teacher as a godly calling. To them, the ultimate way to pursue God is to work in a church.
Often, some of our students believe they’re called to vocational ministry because they don’t often understand what it looks like to be godly in other vocations. It’s difficult to see them stuck in this dichotomy—between a calling to Christian ministry and engaging one’s faith at work and pursuing some other vocation that doesn’t seem to connect to their faith.
It may be obvious, but it seems necessary to say that our God doesn’t call everyone to be a pastor or worship leader; He is too creative to only limit Christians to one field or industry and he wants us all to actively engage our faith and the world, no matter what career field we pursue. Every week at youth group, I get to see the different gifts and talents God displays in the lives of our students as I talk with students about their favorite classes, sports, art projects, and choir concerts. God calls His children to display His glory in every aspect of life, and that happens in every area of work—not solely in vocational ministry.
How do we remind our students of this truth? As a church, we cannot make the mistake of believing that mentoring youth is only the job of church employees. There is an important place for pastors and church workers to disciple our youth and there is also a great need for our youth to be mentored by Christian mortgage bankers, IT men and women, and school teachers, too.
Godly men and women who work in the marketplace of the world must help us—the pastors and church workers of the world—show today’s youth that Christians work outside of the church, too. We want our students to believe that serving and worshiping God occurs at all times throughout the day and in every aspect of life, not just what happens inside church doors. This next generation needs to see how godliness can be displayed at a hospital, business meeting, courtroom, and classroom. We don’t need more seminary degrees (though they are helpful), we just need more people to be willing to point the next generation towards Jesus in every area of their lives and rely on His power in their life to transform lives. Period.
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We have more technology at our fingertips than those before us experienced throughout entire lifetimes. All this efficiency hasn’t helped us slow down though; it’s only made us move faster. Daily tasks like cleaning and cooking are accomplished by pushing a button, but they haven’t created more space in our calendars. We can message someone across the world in an instant, but we’re increasingly disconnected in our relationships. Hurry and hustle is swiftly eating up our time—and maybe even our peace of mind. Is this the way Jesus wanted us to live?
When you read the gospels, do you get a sense Jesus is rushing from one thing to another like we do from meeting to meeting? Jesus never gives us the sense that he was “checking his watch” and worry others were going to make him late with their requests. He lived a full and a fully obedient life without ever running out of time.
Gordon MacDonald further explores the philosophy of life Jesus had and his relationship to his time. How was it that he managed his time so well, allowing for times of reflection and service? MacDonald writes, “The first think that impresses me is that Jesus clearly understood His mission. He had an overarching task to perform, and He measured His use of time against that sense of mission…It is impressive to realize that there were thirty years of relative obscurity and privacy in preparation for three years of important activity.”
Jesus understood different seasons of life required different responses, expectations, and opportunities. His awareness of his mission served as the foundation for both his private preparation and public ministry. As you identify the season of life you’re in and anticipating, make sure you also recognize your personal mission that can help drive your choices in both.
All Christians are expected to join in God’s mission of reconciliation to the world and we’re each uniquely gifted to join in that larger mission. Here are a few questions that can help you discern your personal mission:
1 // What am I good at?
2 // What am I passionate about?
3 // What need do I see in the world around me?
Once you identify your mission and current season, you’ll be free to say “yes” to the best things instead of trying to do everything. Don’t rush through this season or the next. Follow Jesus’ example to choose obedience over hurry.
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Christianity is no spectator sport. There’s no sitting on the sidelines while trying to follow Jesus. Once we decide to follow him, Jesus invites us to join him in his mission of loving others sacrificially. Selfless sacrifice is what Jesus would define as “love.” In John 15:13, he tells his disciples,
“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” John 15:13
Most of us would prefer to keep the idea of “love” as far from sacrifice as possible, where more warm-fuzzies abound and fewer hard choices are made. Unless there’s something to personally gain in exchange, we often withdraw from self-sacrifice. Our natural reflex—if we allow it to rule us—keeps us from engaging Jesus’ mission or becoming more like him.
Instead, we can choose to love like Jesus did and that decision takes some rewiring of our beliefs.
First, we have to confront the main fear underlying our distaste for loving others sacrificially. Yes, it’s generally uncomfortable, but what are we really afraid of risking? What is lost if we choose to love like Jesus?
“If I sacrifice myself to love others, who will take care of me?” a small and fearful voice inside each of us asks. Whether it’s our time, energy, or money, we know that these are limited resources, so a choice to give it away leaves us with petty leftovers—if anything at all. Left to our own devices that small voice will grow until our desire to make sure we’re well fed and taken care of rules every area of our lives.
Is that voice telling us the truth? Jesus’ words in Matthew 16:25 reverses our implicit assumption:
“For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.” Matthew 16:25
Tightening your grasp around your own resources won’t produce the outcome you desire. Giving your life away by loving others is the only way to receive what God is offering us: a life free from our own self-seeking.
God doesn’t just demand we try harder at being less selfish. He frees us from focusing on ourselves—even how to take care of ourselves. Promises about God’s care for his children abound in the Bible. Here’s one to hold tightly whenever self-focused fear rises and doubt of God’s care looms:
“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6: 25-33
We won’t let go of the fear that we need to take care of ourselves until we grasp the truth that God does care and will care for us. We will be free to lose our lives once we trust the one who has promised us eternal life.
We all want to grow the spiritual fruit of patience—or at least our family members want us to. Just like fruit on the vine, spiritual fruit doesn’t pop up overnight. It takes time to grow and cultivate patience, but—also like gardening—not without any work.
There will always be situations we’re unwillingly forced to wait in, so we need to discipline ourselves before those occasions arrive. Each of us can choose to place ourselves in situations and circumstances that help us let go of our own timelines and practice patience.
In her book on spiritual disciplines, Adele Ahlberg Calhoun defines the practice of pursuing patience as a discipline of “slowing” that helps curb our addiction to immediate gratification. She asks us to search our hearts for how deeply we need patience, questioning,
“How do you feel about being stuck behind cars that go slowly? How do you react to a slow sales clerk? What is your response to children who dawdle?”
What’s the solution to our impatience? Choose to live more slowly and we’ll train ourselves to trust God’s perfect timing, to resist “spiritual shortcuts,” and to recognize that God’s unseen work simply takes time.
Below are some of her suggestions and more:
1 // Drive in the slow lane.
2 // Choose the longest line at the grocery store.
3 // Eat more slowly.
4 // Sit at the table after dinner and talk.
5 // Take a longer shower.
6 // Create buffer time in between appointments.
7 // Read the Bible slowly, taking time to consider each word and phrase.
8 // Drive the long way home.
9 // Invite your kids to help with a task.
10 // Call someone on the phone instead of texting.
This post was adapted from content in Adele Ahlberg Calhoun’s book, “Spiritual Disciplines Handbook: Practices That Transform Us.”
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