We’ve all heard it before. Marriage is HARD.

With the high rate of divorce today, it may be scary to begin this adventure with your significant other.

So what can you do before tying the knot to create a beautiful and lasting partnership?

Many couples seek counseling to make sure they are well-prepared for the years ahead. Christian premarital counseling offers valuable insights, guidance, and tools that help couples build a strong foundation for a lifelong partnership.

In this blog, we’ll explore what to expect during premarital counseling sessions. We’ll also see how these meetings can benefit couples who are beginning “happily ever after.”


What is premarital counseling?

Premarital counseling is a form of couples therapy that provides you with tools for a successful, Godly marriage.

Many pastors and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists (LMFTs) offer sessions for engaged couples. These meetings can help you build realistic expectations, strengthen communication skills, and resolve potential future conflicts.

This type of couples counseling also dives into key topics.

These include finances, affection and sexuality, family dynamics, personal strengths and weaknesses, faith, and core values.

By having these discussions early, partners can better talk through challenges and learn how to work through future issues.


What can you expect in a premarital counseling session?

Premarital counseling sessions are typically scheduled once a week for about 8 to 10 weeks and end just before the wedding. The sessions provide an opportunity for the couples to have meaningful discussions guided by a pastor or mental health professional.

Through thought-provoking questions, these professionals help begin a constructive dialogue between you and your partner.

The common questions asked in premarital counseling address many important topics.

The questions are often based around topics like personal backgrounds, expectations, household duties, and potential areas of disagreement.

By encouraging open and honest communication, the counseling sessions help you better understand each other’s perspectives. This can help you both grow emotionally and begin creating a solid foundation for a healthy marriage.


7 common questions for a healthy relationship:

Question 1: What are your career aspirations and how do you envision balancing work and family?

It’s essential to understand each other’s goals and find a harmonious balance between personal and professional life.

Question 2: How do you handle conflict?

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Understanding each other’s communication styles and methods of resolving disputes will help you navigate challenges more effectively.

Question 3: How do you define trust, and how important is it in a relationship?

Trust is the bedrock of any successful marriage. Discuss your expectations and commitments to maintaining trust to nurture a solid bond.

Question 4: How do you prioritize finances?

Openly talk through financial goals, budgeting, and spending habits. This will set you up for financial success and avoid potential conflicts down the road.

Question 5: What are your thoughts on starting a family?

It’s crucial to align your expectations and desires regarding having children. This can include the timing, number, and roles you envision as parents.

Question 6: How do you handle personal time and individual interests?

Discuss the importance of maintaining a sense of self and supporting each other’s hobbies and passions. Doing this will contribute to a healthy and balanced relationship.

Question 7: Do you have any unresolved traumas or difficult experiences that could impact your relationship?

Prioritize open and honest discussions about any emotional baggage to foster healing, understanding, and support.


What if you’re already married?

If you feel like you missed out because you didn’t do premarital counseling, don’t worry! Marriage problems are inevitable, but plenty of free resources exist to begin these important conversations with your spouse and improve your marital health RIGHT NOW!

You can find hope in your marriage through various types of therapy options. For example, pastors and counselors provide marriage counseling. Talking with a professional can be highly beneficial for both those new to marriage and those who’ve been married for 50 years!



Premarital education and counseling can help anyone thinking about getting married. Building your conflict resolution and communication skills is vital in creating a strong, long-term commitment to your spouse and having a vibrant married life.

From effective communication to financial management, family dynamics to intimacy, the counseling process prepares couples to navigate the complexities of marriage with grace and resilience.

By investing in this Biblical counseling process, couples can begin their lifelong journey with courage.


Be confident that you are well-prepared to face the challenges and joys ahead!


Want to connect with other couples?

Check out Re|Engage at Mission Hills Church

Watch video testimonies to see how our re|engage marriage ministry impacted couples’ marriages.

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Matt Rhodes

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