Intentional Mentoring

Anchor + Waves Ep. 115

Hosted by Stacy Ludwig w/ Special Guest Coletta Smith

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why mentoring means so much| 1:40
• What does the Bible have to say about mentoring | 8:41
• How to start | 14:52
• Good guidelines for mentors | 28:15
• Practical tips for mentors | 34:55
• Tips for mentees | 46:46
• Four good questions to ask a mentee | 59:50
• “I’m Diggin’ It” w/ Kelly McSparran | 1:04:19
• Closing + Prayer | 1:11:53

INSTANT TAKEAWAYS

1 | What Titus 2 says about how we can be as women pouring into other women

• We can show them how to love God, love our families, love our community even when it is hard.
• How to learn and choose to do the right thing, and behave well.
• Help them learn skills for managing their homes, jobs outside the home, and being involved with the community.

Listen in at 59:50

2 | How do we start mentoring?

Ask God, am I willing to be a student of someone? Watch for the wave of the The Holy Spirit doing a work in someone’s life, and then ride that wave. | Listen in at 14:52

3 | Expectations and guidelines for mentors

• Build relationships first.
• Look for that invitation
• If you have been asked, you already have permission to speak into their life.
• Talk about expectations right off the bat.
• Keep it Christ centered, and don’t be afraid to dig in and go deep.
• Awkward is where the learning happens, lean into it.

Listen in at 59:50

4 | Practical tips for mentors

• One of the biggest pitfalls for a mentor is the need to impress. Let that go.
• Honor each other’s time.
• Set a timer to create a healthy boundary.
• Honor confidentiality, while having the mutual understanding that others may be invited in if complex issues arise.
• If goals are set such as heart issues, character, behavior, or specific skills; check in at a 6 month point and see if you both are on track.

Listen in at 34:55

5 | Tips for mentees

• Look for a mentor that you see something in them that you would like to learn.
• Ask a lot of questions, and come prepared.
• Invite God into the process.
• Don’t waste time trying to impress the mentor. 
• Have a teachable heart.
• Be open. As you gain more life experience your perspective might change.

Listen in at 46:46

6 | Four good standy by questions to ask a mentee

• What is the real challenge here?
• What do you need most?
• What does God want for you?
• What does God want from you?

Listen in at 59:50

SHOW NOTES

One of the ways that we can be intentional with relationships and community is healthy intentional mentoring. It is something we are called to do no matter what age we are. It is also something that is so organic it can be hard to feel confident about whether or not we are doing it “right.” So, why not look to those that have a lifetime of experience and learn from them. Ironically that is what mentoring is all about! So, Stacy invited Coletta Smith to share with us some great guidelines and tips for successful mentoring. If you have desired to be mentored and just didn’t know where to begin, or if you have ever considered mentoring someone but just didn’t feel confident in how to do it, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.