Self Talk – The Conversation You Didn’t Know You Were Having

Anchor + Waves Ep. 114

Hosted by Stacy Ludwig w/ Special Guest Brooke Gage


  • Definition of self-care | 2:20
  • Four aspects of self-care | 7:40
  • Emotions are telling you something | 20:33
  • Be aware of your thoughts | 45:45
  • Tools for dealing with hard emotions | 54:54
  • The power of community | 1:02:30
  • “I’m Diggin’ It” w/ Kelly McSparran | 1:10:15
  • Closing + Prayer | 1:17:02


1 | Thoughts, emotions, spirit, and body are all intertwined and impact each other

If one aspect is unhealthy it is going to affect the others. So examining our self-talk benefits us as a whole, but more importantly, it creates a closer fellowship with God. | Listen in at 14:10

2 | If we are not attending to our thoughts and feelings, and are separated from God; it impacts all of our relationships

If you are in a right place with God you will be in a better place relationally with others. | Listen in at 15:03

3 | When self-talk is coming from a place of woundedness you must acknowledge, and don’t dismiss or condone

It is hard to acknowledge places of hurt, but when you do, you can be aware of how that wound is influencing an opinion or developing a truth from that wound. That wound matters to God, and He wants to help you to a better place. | Listen in at 15:45

4 | In order to create new pathways for our brain, we have to be consciously aware of our current paths

You have to be aware of what you are thinking in order to take control and redirect. | Listen in at 17:53

Steps to take your thoughts captive:
  • Become aware of yourself; be curious about yourself without judgement.
  • Intentionally write down your thoughts and emotions. Be honest and humble about what and why you think and feel certain ways. Examine the assumptions, opinions, and expectations.
  • Examine your inclinations. When I feel a strong negative emotion, what am I inclined to do? How do I typically respond? Scan through the things you’ve written down. Look for exaggerations and generalizations that I consider true? Like “always” and “never.” Look for comparisons, entitlement, shameful statements, expectations, “should” statements, and is there something or someone I am asking too much of?
  • Ask God to show me where I need to change my thinking, and how to replace these areas with His truth.

Listen in at 21:14


We have another information-packed episode for you. Stacy has Biblical Counselor Brooke Gage joining her again, this time to talk about self-talk and how it plays a part in taking your thoughts captive. It is amazing to learn how important it is for our personal health, our relationship with God, and our relationship with others to be aware of what we are telling ourselves. Brooke brings some really practical information to us with tangible action points, so you are going to want to take some notes. The great thing is that you can come back to this and listen again, and pause where you need to when you have carved out the time to sit down and really work on the conversations you didn’t know you were having.


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